It was a whirlwind of simple, yet joyful events.
I watched some hardcore, tiiiight dance routines by Andrew Baterina of SoReal Cru, silly covers of rnb songs, and some short films via youtube.
Then it was dinner at my uncle's house and played with the little ones. The oldest son of one of my uncles is already 11. I remember it was not too long ago when I held him at birth at the hospital visiting my aunt. We all sat and watched the travel channel as a family, which is a change from the normal Vietnamese music concert stuff they usually put on.
By 11:15ish, we went home and I started listening to Gin's cuts when my f4L decided to phone spam me. Rosa called first, I believe drunk dialing and told me that she was psychic and that she sees me getting married to a gay guy this coming year. What a lunatic. Then Jon called me and asked if I was going to get a midnight kiss. Well seeming that I'm not out on any escapades tonight, I won't. Well, honestly, if he's not here, uh...there isn't anyone I would. Lastly, my favorite...my Lina called intoxicated some and sang Birthday Sex really loud.
Hello 2010.
Friday, January 1, 2010
Thursday, December 31, 2009
for Forever.
I spoke to my friend the other day as he was getting ready to fly to Japan to meet his fiance's folks before they get married next summer.
I asked him why the sudden change of ways? He was going to be a bachelor for life, he told me last year.
"Are you sure?"
"Yeah."
"Good. I'm impressed. What made you become a one-woman-man?"
"I took a good look at myself in the mirror actually and I didn't see someone that could ever be voted for anything or land a good job. I realized I needed to get serious and be mature. I had to start respecting myself as the person I want to be. Plus it helped that I love her." [laughs for 3 mins]
"But what about the other girls you went out with in the past? You said I love you to them, too. What's different this time?"
"She makes me wait. And I've never had to wait for someone, especially a girl. But that's exactly it. The past...they were all girls. I found myself a lady this time. And man, she doesn't have to yell or say anything. She just gives me this look and I get my act together and stop messing around."
"How does she do that? I need to talk to her."
"Haha. Seriously, it's weird. When she does that, I'm scared to drink too much in front of her or I stand up straighter or something and stop eating sloppily...I'm a better person when she's there."
"I still can't believe though. You know what you're getting into, right? This is for good."
"Yeah I thought about it plenty and you know what? I hope that it lasts for a long time. If not forever, 10, 15, 20 years...it don't matter to me. I figure I'll learn some things and I trust her with my life to teach me."
I asked him why the sudden change of ways? He was going to be a bachelor for life, he told me last year.
"Are you sure?"
"Yeah."
"Good. I'm impressed. What made you become a one-woman-man?"
"I took a good look at myself in the mirror actually and I didn't see someone that could ever be voted for anything or land a good job. I realized I needed to get serious and be mature. I had to start respecting myself as the person I want to be. Plus it helped that I love her." [laughs for 3 mins]
"But what about the other girls you went out with in the past? You said I love you to them, too. What's different this time?"
"She makes me wait. And I've never had to wait for someone, especially a girl. But that's exactly it. The past...they were all girls. I found myself a lady this time. And man, she doesn't have to yell or say anything. She just gives me this look and I get my act together and stop messing around."
"How does she do that? I need to talk to her."
"Haha. Seriously, it's weird. When she does that, I'm scared to drink too much in front of her or I stand up straighter or something and stop eating sloppily...I'm a better person when she's there."
"I still can't believe though. You know what you're getting into, right? This is for good."
"Yeah I thought about it plenty and you know what? I hope that it lasts for a long time. If not forever, 10, 15, 20 years...it don't matter to me. I figure I'll learn some things and I trust her with my life to teach me."
Monday, December 28, 2009
Neuroticism and the Conscience
The tendencies of a thought process that loves to backtrack and question things. It always ponders what will and will not work.
Measuring probability and stemming from uncertainty.
It's always conjuring up the worst and then over-dramatizes possible scenarios.
And at the very last second, optimism surfaces.
Measuring probability and stemming from uncertainty.
It's always conjuring up the worst and then over-dramatizes possible scenarios.
And at the very last second, optimism surfaces.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Sketches of the mind: Balancing act
"We fight and love so much sometimes
I get confused of who we are
Maybe if we just stop and chat and
It will find out who we are..." - Raphael Saadiq
It's amazing how some of my friends expect that being in a relationship is a breeze. That just two people attracted to each other is enough. So what will they do when one person is sick? Avoid them? Gah.
I feel like they just like the idea of being in a relationship, to have someone, but not really love that person. They just love to have someone stroke their ego whenever they please without having to reciprocate. Someone to finally have an excuse to change their facebook status with. How stupid.
The ones that I see last take a lot of work and not just that, I see a lot of sacrificing.
There's a lot of..."Okay, I don't really agree with you on everything, but I love you more, so I'll go along with you."
I get confused of who we are
Maybe if we just stop and chat and
It will find out who we are..." - Raphael Saadiq
It's amazing how some of my friends expect that being in a relationship is a breeze. That just two people attracted to each other is enough. So what will they do when one person is sick? Avoid them? Gah.
I feel like they just like the idea of being in a relationship, to have someone, but not really love that person. They just love to have someone stroke their ego whenever they please without having to reciprocate. Someone to finally have an excuse to change their facebook status with. How stupid.
The ones that I see last take a lot of work and not just that, I see a lot of sacrificing.
There's a lot of..."Okay, I don't really agree with you on everything, but I love you more, so I'll go along with you."
Picture this.
Just the composition tells you the angle at one's perspective when taking a shot with their camera. The angle hints at the focal point. The area or object the photographer wants to emphasize.
Aesthetically, that's supposedly the most interesting, attention drawing point.
What of telling stories?
Just the way two people pose in a picture together, the distance between them, how their facial expressions are like, how comfortable they look being in a picture together, and how anxious they look to take a picture can tell you so much about how close the people are to each other without using words.
Pictures do not lie (well I guess Photoshop can alter the true picture).
Candace Brown & Beto O'Connor
Aesthetically, that's supposedly the most interesting, attention drawing point.
What of telling stories?
Just the way two people pose in a picture together, the distance between them, how their facial expressions are like, how comfortable they look being in a picture together, and how anxious they look to take a picture can tell you so much about how close the people are to each other without using words.
Pictures do not lie (well I guess Photoshop can alter the true picture).
Candace Brown & Beto O'Connor
Battling his addiction
So they broke up a month after the last time I talked to her.
She believed that he would quit eventually if she kept pushing him to.
But the thing is...he didn't see it as something that affected their relationship, so why would he stop? He didn't even realize he was spending most if not all of his time on it.
He chose to satisfy his craving over spending quality time with his lady.
His addiction always won.
I told her that if she believed she meant more to him than his addiction, then he would have quit it a long time ago for her and without her persistent nagging him to do so. The scoreboard was something like: her-0, his addiction-34.
He didn't see it as a problem, so he wouldn't do anything to change it if there's nothing wrong to him about it.
If a man won't change his ways for himself, never expect him to change for anyone.
She believed that he would quit eventually if she kept pushing him to.
But the thing is...he didn't see it as something that affected their relationship, so why would he stop? He didn't even realize he was spending most if not all of his time on it.
He chose to satisfy his craving over spending quality time with his lady.
His addiction always won.
I told her that if she believed she meant more to him than his addiction, then he would have quit it a long time ago for her and without her persistent nagging him to do so. The scoreboard was something like: her-0, his addiction-34.
He didn't see it as a problem, so he wouldn't do anything to change it if there's nothing wrong to him about it.
If a man won't change his ways for himself, never expect him to change for anyone.
Case of the Ex
The idea of a backup relationship is weird to me.
We caught up on the phone the other night and she told me that she is frustrated with the guy she has been talking to for a few months now. She didn't feel it was going anywhere as they seldom talked. He rarely ever called or returned hers.
But that wasn't why she called me to talk about her ordeal. She found out from her best friend that he was still talking to his ex (the one before he started talking to my friend). Although he had told my friend that he was over his previous relationship, he still thought about her often. He actually told his ex that if fate had them get back together, he would try and make it work.
My friend could tell he missed his ex. Maybe she should have taken the hint when she saw some of his facebook pictures still with his ex. He even said that though he knew things could never be exactly the same, the memories are still there and very strong.
And that was the problem.
He wasn't able to move on so that they could move forward. He was stuck in the past. It seemed he only started to talk to my friend just in case he can't get back with the ex. Like he's been trying to make amends with the ex, but he also refused to let my friend give up on him. He doesn't want to be alone, I suppose...to put it simply. He just can't make up his mind.
And it seems at this rate, she'll never have him 100%.
We caught up on the phone the other night and she told me that she is frustrated with the guy she has been talking to for a few months now. She didn't feel it was going anywhere as they seldom talked. He rarely ever called or returned hers.
But that wasn't why she called me to talk about her ordeal. She found out from her best friend that he was still talking to his ex (the one before he started talking to my friend). Although he had told my friend that he was over his previous relationship, he still thought about her often. He actually told his ex that if fate had them get back together, he would try and make it work.
My friend could tell he missed his ex. Maybe she should have taken the hint when she saw some of his facebook pictures still with his ex. He even said that though he knew things could never be exactly the same, the memories are still there and very strong.
And that was the problem.
He wasn't able to move on so that they could move forward. He was stuck in the past. It seemed he only started to talk to my friend just in case he can't get back with the ex. Like he's been trying to make amends with the ex, but he also refused to let my friend give up on him. He doesn't want to be alone, I suppose...to put it simply. He just can't make up his mind.
And it seems at this rate, she'll never have him 100%.
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